This Surrogate’s Moving Facebook Post About Carrying Other Women’s Children Is Going Viral
“He was the second baby I placed in another mother’s arms.”
Australian nurse and mother Mel Holman has never had trouble getting pregnant, as she wrote in a message shared on her blog and on blogger Constance Hall’s Facebook page on Tuesday. When she realized that others did, she was compelled to take action. Now, her letter on the joy she finds in assisting would-be mothers through egg donation and surrogacy has gone viral.
“While working as a nurse, one day I came across a woman in tears. She was devastated after yet another round of failed IVF,” Holman wrote. “All I wanted to do was fix it for her.” Holman added that now, 18 babies have been born thanks to her donated eggs, and that a few weeks ago, she gave birth to “the second baby I placed in another mother’s arms” as a surrogate.
According to the CDC, some 12 percent of women of reproductive age have trouble getting pregnant or carrying a pregnancy to term. While fertility treatments are evolving, some aspiring mothers’ best option — especially if they don’t have eggs or their eggs are unhealthy — is to work with a surrogate who becomes pregnant using the would-be mom’s chosen sperm and the surrogate’s own egg.
Holman says that the women whose dreams of motherhood she helps realize exemplify persistence: “While supporting women through infertility, I am constantly amazed at the strength, resilience and determination of these women,” she wrote. “Most of all, their endless capacity to love and care for their sisterhood … Maybe you can’t change the world. But you can give the world to someone, and change their life.” The most-liked response to Holman’s post, meanwhile, expresses appreciation from the other side of the surrogate-mom relationship. “Feeling [grateful] to my very own beautiful surrogate who is carrying my baby for me. We have 6 weeks to go. I feel blessed,” one commenter wrote. Fertility struggles are devastating for so many. It’s heartening to see an example of one woman helping others overcome them and start their own families, and receiving their gratitude and compassion in return.